Pro Rata
In times of being down and out, we call upon our friends to be a party to our woes.
We all think it is simple: it is to listen and then to advice. Sometimes truth slides past our narrow perceptions of what we thought the situation then expected.
Friends either tell you what you want to listen to or what you should listen to.
Which circumstance hurts more? To realise you do not say enough to have them speak the truth you have been stepping on thus far; to hear comforting words that only momentarily soothe the aches; or to receive the verdict 'to tell the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth'.
We can sometimes become our own worst enemy.
We all think it is simple: it is to listen and then to advice. Sometimes truth slides past our narrow perceptions of what we thought the situation then expected.
Friends either tell you what you want to listen to or what you should listen to.
Which circumstance hurts more? To realise you do not say enough to have them speak the truth you have been stepping on thus far; to hear comforting words that only momentarily soothe the aches; or to receive the verdict 'to tell the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth'.
We can sometimes become our own worst enemy.
sometimes there's no need to advise...sometimes the best thing to do is just listen. it all depends on what we need. the problem is that what we want to hear is sometimes what we need, too. the bigger problem is that what we want to hear is sometimes NOT what we need. and one can almost never tell.
sometimes knowing that they know you need to hear those comforting words...even if it soothes you only for a while...knowing that they know and say them...it is a comfort in itself.